that's the way I like it

I often write about the power of the feminine on here. And, it's not to jam feminism down anybody's throat or to try and discount the power of the masculine. Anyone who knows me knows I loves me some men. It's just that over the past 10 years or so, my view of women has drastically changed. Perhaps it's because 10 years ago I was a 16 year old tomboy. I guarded my boyfriends closely and resented other females who stole their attention with big boobs and lip gloss.

When I went off to college I was blessed to fall naturally into an amazing group of females who I still love to this day. That group of women taught me that it's okay to be feminine, that I can be smart and domestic at the same time, that dancing and laughing and hugging are integral parts of daily life. They embraced me without judgment, without expectations, without boundaries, without hairspray.



These days, I embrace my feminine side. I love dresses, baking, and mascara. More than anything I love my girls. I love that my circle of girlfriends has expanded to include a diverse group of successful, smart, athletic, and loving women. It's miraculous what can happen when you drop walls that are built from fear. Don't get me wrong, I love my boyfriends just the same. They fill my life with laughter, protection, strength, attraction, and testosterone--things a girl cannot live without.

In my life now, I think I may have actually achieved a yin-yang balance, if you will, between the male and female influences. When we get down to it, we're all just human. It's about who you are outside your gender that really counts. However, there's just something understanding and special about the bonds that form between females. I'm glad I didn't miss out on that.